James... our second boy is now entering his fourth year, and is still sleeping with Nick and myself in our room. We are now facing tough time in peeling him off and getting him to either bunk-in with his elder brother, Shawn or start sharing the same room as his baby brother.
Bottomline, none of the above seems to interest him at all! He just would not budge! He is adamant at sleeping with us and he said nothing is going to change that *faint*.
Shawn on the other hand... you can call me cruel... I had been letting him sleep on his own, in his own room since he was a baby. Yup... and that was like since he was 1 month old. I might sound cruel, but that has made my Shawn a very independent boy. He had since been sleeping on his own till now.
You might be asking how did James developed this clingy habit and why we allowed it to happen. Well, James WAS supposed to be our 2nd and last addition into our family, and he was super-clingy to his dad even when he was only 5-days old. You might be thinking that I am exaggerating, but I am telling you the truth. James did not want anyone else to carry him aside from his daddy when he was so ill with his little body completely covered with serious eczema. And poor Nick had to carry him for the whole night! Yes! hear me... the whole night right up to 5am! He did not allowed Nick to lie down either, and only wanted to be held by the daddy. Spoiled little brat right? And the father?.... yup... he allowed his little boy to be spoiled too.
Since a baby, Nick has been taking care of James every night - especially for his night feeds. That was how James ended up in our room. And I believe you might be thinking what happens to little Lucas now. Lucas is a wonderful gift blessed by the Lord in His utmost right timing. He is not clingy to anyone, and anyone who takes care of him is fine for him as he always smiles sweetly to everyone that cares for him. And he sleeps with our maid every night now (due to space constraints la...). In fact, our maid is sharing the baby's room as we only have 3 rooms in our apartment.
So, back to the topic now.... how to peel James from being so clingy with us? Both Nick and myself are still cracking our heads on how to lure him out from our room. We believe as he grows, we should not be showing any favouritism in giving him the benefit of feeling closer to us compared to his two other brothers. They are all equal in our hearts, and James should not be getting any extra. Moreover, as he grows, it is not proper for a child to be sharing room with his parents as well as I do not want the little boy to "witness" anything extra which he is not ready to know now *lol* - hey, that is speaking from several experiences which some friends had shared with me.
We tried on several occasions to let James sleep with Shawn - sharing the same room and same queen sized bed. James freaked out, wanting the elder brother to hug and brush his hair non-stop with his hand for the entire night! And poor Shawn has konked-out middle of the night due to tiredness from doing so. We figured that Shawn will suffer lack of sleep if being put together with James, and end up... James is back into our room again.
Now... while we try on other possible methods to lure him out from the room... Anyone out there that might have better suggestions, please do share with us ;)
Bottomline, none of the above seems to interest him at all! He just would not budge! He is adamant at sleeping with us and he said nothing is going to change that *faint*.
Shawn on the other hand... you can call me cruel... I had been letting him sleep on his own, in his own room since he was a baby. Yup... and that was like since he was 1 month old. I might sound cruel, but that has made my Shawn a very independent boy. He had since been sleeping on his own till now.
You might be asking how did James developed this clingy habit and why we allowed it to happen. Well, James WAS supposed to be our 2nd and last addition into our family, and he was super-clingy to his dad even when he was only 5-days old. You might be thinking that I am exaggerating, but I am telling you the truth. James did not want anyone else to carry him aside from his daddy when he was so ill with his little body completely covered with serious eczema. And poor Nick had to carry him for the whole night! Yes! hear me... the whole night right up to 5am! He did not allowed Nick to lie down either, and only wanted to be held by the daddy. Spoiled little brat right? And the father?.... yup... he allowed his little boy to be spoiled too.
Since a baby, Nick has been taking care of James every night - especially for his night feeds. That was how James ended up in our room. And I believe you might be thinking what happens to little Lucas now. Lucas is a wonderful gift blessed by the Lord in His utmost right timing. He is not clingy to anyone, and anyone who takes care of him is fine for him as he always smiles sweetly to everyone that cares for him. And he sleeps with our maid every night now (due to space constraints la...). In fact, our maid is sharing the baby's room as we only have 3 rooms in our apartment.
So, back to the topic now.... how to peel James from being so clingy with us? Both Nick and myself are still cracking our heads on how to lure him out from our room. We believe as he grows, we should not be showing any favouritism in giving him the benefit of feeling closer to us compared to his two other brothers. They are all equal in our hearts, and James should not be getting any extra. Moreover, as he grows, it is not proper for a child to be sharing room with his parents as well as I do not want the little boy to "witness" anything extra which he is not ready to know now *lol* - hey, that is speaking from several experiences which some friends had shared with me.
We tried on several occasions to let James sleep with Shawn - sharing the same room and same queen sized bed. James freaked out, wanting the elder brother to hug and brush his hair non-stop with his hand for the entire night! And poor Shawn has konked-out middle of the night due to tiredness from doing so. We figured that Shawn will suffer lack of sleep if being put together with James, and end up... James is back into our room again.
Now... while we try on other possible methods to lure him out from the room... Anyone out there that might have better suggestions, please do share with us ;)
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