Shot Gun Marriage Do Not Last?

Saw the entry made by Bonnie last week called Shot Gun Marriage = Divorce, and thought it was an interesting topic to make an entry about, or more likely to express further on what Bonnie had expressed earlier.

While many elders will think that most shot-gun marriage will not last, I seriously believe that there is no factual proof to what they claim too. There are marriages that was built from some solid years of courtship, and had some years of blissful married years, but still tears apart despite the years spent in nurturing it.

In other words, there is no rocket science when it comes to predicting how long a marriage will last by just looking or judging the individuals from the cover. In fact, each have their own story to tell, and none will be similar. It also takes both partners to love and comprise, and to come to a stage of acceptance to each others' shortfalls, before moving forward to make the best of what they've got to make the marriage work.

Who says that marriage is a bed of roses? Marriage is NEVER a bed of roses. In fact, marriage is where the next level of commitment and responsibilities set in. Real honeymoon is when both partners have come to a stage where all flaws are being accepted, unwillingness are being straightened and new understanding of each other are being achieved. To reach this stage will not be easy - for some, it would be easier if both partners have the same or similar platform of understanding where both can embark on further developing their relationship further, for others, both parties needs to make adjustment to fit themselves into the marriage and to make the relationship last.

Changes are constant in a marriage whenever a new member is added into the family, whenever there's new changes that will test the marriage from the financial standpoint, whenever there's emotional changes that affects one or the other, and whenever there's external pressure that will apply indirect stress to the marriage.

Each phase a couple endures together when they face with these changes/challenges will elevate the relationship to a new level, and the passing of each phase will successfully enable both partners to understand each other better when the next challenge arrives.

I like to quote my favourite quote when I mention this, "everything happens for a reason, and each reason always has a GOOD reason laying behind it". Things or events may not appear favourable in our human eyes, but I always believe that it is a blessing in disguise to prepare us for the next challenge. The same principle applies to our own relationship with our life partners. We just need to remember that each challenge will only bless us with the experience that will strengthen the marriage, and it will always takes two to do the Tango.