Shot Gun Marriage Do Not Last?

Saw the entry made by Bonnie last week called Shot Gun Marriage = Divorce, and thought it was an interesting topic to make an entry about, or more likely to express further on what Bonnie had expressed earlier.

While many elders will think that most shot-gun marriage will not last, I seriously believe that there is no factual proof to what they claim too. There are marriages that was built from some solid years of courtship, and had some years of blissful married years, but still tears apart despite the years spent in nurturing it.

In other words, there is no rocket science when it comes to predicting how long a marriage will last by just looking or judging the individuals from the cover. In fact, each have their own story to tell, and none will be similar. It also takes both partners to love and comprise, and to come to a stage of acceptance to each others' shortfalls, before moving forward to make the best of what they've got to make the marriage work.

Who says that marriage is a bed of roses? Marriage is NEVER a bed of roses. In fact, marriage is where the next level of commitment and responsibilities set in. Real honeymoon is when both partners have come to a stage where all flaws are being accepted, unwillingness are being straightened and new understanding of each other are being achieved. To reach this stage will not be easy - for some, it would be easier if both partners have the same or similar platform of understanding where both can embark on further developing their relationship further, for others, both parties needs to make adjustment to fit themselves into the marriage and to make the relationship last.

Changes are constant in a marriage whenever a new member is added into the family, whenever there's new changes that will test the marriage from the financial standpoint, whenever there's emotional changes that affects one or the other, and whenever there's external pressure that will apply indirect stress to the marriage.

Each phase a couple endures together when they face with these changes/challenges will elevate the relationship to a new level, and the passing of each phase will successfully enable both partners to understand each other better when the next challenge arrives.

I like to quote my favourite quote when I mention this, "everything happens for a reason, and each reason always has a GOOD reason laying behind it". Things or events may not appear favourable in our human eyes, but I always believe that it is a blessing in disguise to prepare us for the next challenge. The same principle applies to our own relationship with our life partners. We just need to remember that each challenge will only bless us with the experience that will strengthen the marriage, and it will always takes two to do the Tango.

New Excitement

I had been complaining non-stop about being unable to catch sometime to go for my Twilight Saga book hunting.

Well, yesterday I tried my luck with Popular bookstore and got my eye on the only Saga bundle which was priced at RM188.90 for all the 4 books. Pushing my luck a little, I tried to ask the store helper if there is a discount on the bundle since it is being placed together with the stash of books which were on 20% discount. What I got was not something which I had wanted to hear - "I'm sorry miss, the bundle has no discount unless you are a Popular member, then you are entitled to 10% discount. But the 20% discount applies to the other loose copies placed together at the counter".

I felt bummed, still not willing to fork out RM190 for 4 copies of books which I knew I would hardly read-through after once, I went back to the counter and flip through those loose copies in vain to get hold of the 4 books which I had wanted to get so badly. To my dismay, I managed to find Book 3 and 4 only which were priced at RM68.90 (before the 20% discount). And since I have not even started reading Book 1, how on earth can I jump to Book 3? I squashed the thought and returned the books back on the counter, and made my exit from the bookstore as quick as possible before I go ahead to make that purchase.

Back home, I went online to search for the Twilight eBook copies. And to my delight, I found all 4 copies downloadable from a good-Twilight-samaritan who so freely shared her PDF copies with all individuals out there. So, now I have the complete set which are in eBook format - thanks to "dchen". And I am thinking to get it printed out for my easy reading pleasure.

Now, I can't wait to get my hands on them and start my reading spree.

A Sweet Surprise

Birthdays have always been birthdays to me. Call me old-fashion when it comes to this, but I do strongly believe that birthdays do need to be celebrated - but not necessarily to spend lavishly.

When it came to my birthday recently, Nick had "pre-booked" me to have a weekend together - and we did. Basically, I had wanted some "two of us" time since we are always surrounded by our 3 musketeers in general most of the time.

So, last weekend we did spent sometime together - on Saturday, we caught some time with my parents (my dad returned from Singapore to spend a day with us), was surprised by an impromtu visit by an uncle (my dad's close friend) from KL who watched me grew-up and had a hearty lunch with them. We went to several aquarium shops hunting for some saltwater fishes for our newly setup tank, and even went for a test-drive on a new vehicle which we then subsequently decided to buy. And to top the day, my mom cooked a fabulous dinner for us too.

On Sunday, Nick brought me out for some really "two of us" time together. We had a quick and delicious lunch at Nando's, pick-up our movie tickets for the Star Trek show at Queensbay and happily giggling our way to the theatre holding our pop-corns and drinks just like kids - and had a great time absorbing the movie entirely. All in all, I really had a great time and did not think that there would be something extra since I had clearly mentioned to Nick that we can do away with the cake since I had added a couple of pounds from my recent ice-cream and cakes frenzy appetite.

But, little did I know that he had planned a little surprise for me at home. He had the cake collected, picked up my kids from my IL's and bought KFC for both my children and maid who simply enjoys those fried chicken meals. And just like I mentioned, he said "birthdays will always be birthdays, and it will be incomplete without a cake to celebrate the occasion".

Such a sweet surprise.

How Well Do You Know Your Husband

This is really an interesting tag which I've got from Sandra. Basically, it was good to remind me on the little things that most of us (wives) might tend to forget after some years rolled by into the marriage.


1. He’s sitting in front of the TV, what is on the screen?
- News, CSI, any good documentary on Discovery, Animal Planet or National Geographic channel concerning deep sea fishes, air-crash investigation, I Survived or anything that picque his interest.

2. You’re out to eat; what kind of dressing does he get on his salad?
- French dressing or thousand island sauce.

3. What’s one food he doesn’t like?
- Any food that is too spicy for him to handle

4. You go out to eat and have a drink. What does he order?
- Anything new to him, he's pretty adventurous when it comes to food.

5. Where did he go to high school?
- SRJK (C) Chung Hwa Confucion

6. What size shoes does he wear?
- Men size 8 i.e. 42 European size

7. If he was to collect anything, what would it be?
- Dead corals and sea shells

8. What is his favorite type of sandwich?
- Anything that is a good-combo. He's pretty adventurous when it comes to food. Which include once turning his sandwich to a sushi complete with wasabi!

9. What would this person eat every day if he could?
- Green apples and "bak chang".... they are his favourite

10. What is his favorite cereal?
- Combination of cornflakes with rice pops.

11. What would he never wear?
- Anything that makes him look odd or different obviously.

12. What is his favorite sports team?
- My man is a dull sportsman. The only sports he plays is backyard futsal.

13. Who did he vote for?
- Aside from the dutiful vote he needs to cast, there is no other vote he does.

14. Who is his best friend?
- Boring guy, hardly mixes around eventhough I have encouraged him. Home is his best friend.

15. What is something you do that he wishes you wouldn’t do?
- Shopping and spending money!

16. What is his heritage?
- Pure chinese right up to the roots

17. What is his favorite colour?
- Yellow, yellow dirty fellow :p

18. What is his habit?
- A morning visit to the loo is a must :p

19. What is he proud of?
- His wife (...not boasting, he always tells me that) wahkahkahkah....

20. Lastly, do you think he will read this?
Definitely not! He's totally not into blog, and aside from other aquarium bloggers, he has no interest reading blogs.... hehehehehe...

The Love of a Mother

The love of a mother is the greatest love found beside the love of God to mankind. And God has been loving and thoughtful to have blessed each wonderful soul with a mother to nuture, love, care and protect us since the day we were born into this world. A mother’s love can be compared to God’s love for us. God’s love is not static neither it is self centered; it reaches out to draws others in. And a mother’s is none other than the same way as God's undivided love - it is unselfish, undivided and endures everything. The strength of a mother’s love is entirely independent of the past, the present and of the future, and above all - it is the purest of all emotions.

Since today is Mother’s Day and to all of our mothers, we would wish “Happy Mother’s Day”. And in conjunction to Mother's Day, I would like to post a beautiful lyric from Helen Steiner Rice here to wish all my beautiful, gorgeous and wonderful blogger mommy friends, friends and relatives out there an awesome Happy Mother's Day!

A Mother's Love

A Mother's love is somethingthat no on can explain,

It is made of deep devotionand of sacrifice and pain,

It is endless and unselfishand enduring come what may

For nothing can destroy itor take that love away . . .

It is patient and forgivingwhen all others are forsaking,

And it never fails or falterseven though the heart is breaking . . .

It believes beyond believingwhen the world around condemns,

And it glows with all the beautyof the rarest, brightest gems . . .

It is far beyond defining, it defies all explanation,

And it still remains a secretlike the mysteries of creation . . .

A many splendoured miracleman cannot understand

And another wondrous evidenceof God's tender guiding hand.
- by Helen Steiner Rice

And I would like to leave you a thought for the week too :-

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” — Washington Irving

Have a Blessed Mother's Day peeps!

A New Obsession

Handbags and bags, no doubt has been one of my "items" when it comes to shopping... BUT, never before had I ever even thought of spending more than RM200 for a bag.

Lately, I started developing an obsession over wristlets and bags......... and mind my crazy mind, I have been spending quite a lot within a week with my purchase of 2 wristlets, 1 large satchel and 1 large tote. And what is worse, they are all branded....

Speaking of maintenance which was a quiz I took in one of the facebook applications, the result was indicating that I am of 50% high maintainance and that I should start living a life! Oh my! I seriously think my answers were excluding the less than a week's expenses poured for my crazy and latest obsession. *feeling of guilt is slowly seeping through - with my tongue sticking out*

Good grace! I even asked the seller to search for a Fendi wallet for me which I saw priced at USD455 *which I seriously think I am loosing my mind*.

Guess before I am thinking of splurging my cash to that over-priced wallet, I better think of using that money to much better use - such as changing my ten years refridgerator.

Should get a better grip of myself.